Carolina Girl

Words of a Twenty-Something

Friday, July 29, 2005


Why is it when you're happy with your life now, that old flame has to pop back in just to make his presence known?!? I remember reading a post about this before ( I believe it was Asian Mistress...forgive me if I am mistaken) and now it's happening to me. Right now I couldn't be happier: I'll be graduating in May, Boyfriend and I are doing better than ever, and my place of employment isn't working my nerves too bad. Now that everything is going good, Old Flame sends me an instant message on AIM. I usually ignore him if he calls and leaves me voicemails every once in a while, but when you're on AIM you can see the words right in front of you.

Here was the convo:

Old Flame: Come to ECU
Me: For what?
Old Flame: to hang out and stuff
Me: No thanks
Old Flame: *sad face with tear*
Old Flame: i miss you
Me: You only miss giving me the run around

**I put an away message up**

(side note: I used to go to ECU but I transferred last year to a univeristy closer to my house.)

Now, Old Flame has a girlfriend and here is he trying to get me to visit him. He does the same sh*t everytime. Pre-Boyfriend I would always fall for his tactics, he'd give me the cold shoulder after a while, and then I would be hurt all over again. He knew he always had me around his little finger and I hated it. But something about him always made me go back to him. I finally pulled myself together and put a stop to the vicious cycle. It now bugs him that I am fine without him and that he doesn't have that control over me anymore. So every now and then he will leave me that drunk voicemail at 3 a.m. or that irritating instant message telling me how much he misses me or wants to "get together."

What does Old Flame think he is going to accomplish by making this out of the blue communication? If he has a girlfriend, why does he feel the need to still be contacting me? Does he not realize that by making his presence known, it just brings back old (and infuriating) memories?

Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Take Note

I was reading a post by DC Cookie (which you can find here) about men giving women oral sex. All I have to say is Cookie said it all. Check it out!

Immature Women

So there is this girl at work named D who I used to be good friends with. She is about 2-3 yrs older than me, but granted I am a lot more mature than her. She just got married to one of the guys we also work with. First of all, we had a falling out about a month ago because I was tired of the way she treated people (especially the ones we worked with.) She is the bitchest girl there and runs around the restaurant being evil to people.

So about 2 weeks ago, she started to befriend another girl we work with named C. Well all of a sudden D and C were "best friends". It's funny because D has never made it a point to talk to C about anything other than work related topics. D was getting married about a beach but could only invite a certain amount of people because of the cost. All of a sudden, C is invited to the wedding and C has even made herself the maid of honor! Those two were always running around talking about wedding plans and such. Then one day C decides to throw D a wedding shower a few days before the big day. To be really ghetto and cheap, they write the invitations on INDEX cards! (Seriously, they could have went to Wal-Mart or the dollar store and bought some blank invitations.) Not only that but on the invitation, they wrote "Bring money or a gift!" Who writes that on an invitation!?!?!? Of course, my other friends from work and I did not receive this expensive invitation. (though I did not care because who wants to go to a shower that is requesting your money or gifts?!)

So for the next few days before the shower, they pretty much begged people to come. They would also try to make it a point to be loud and talk about the event when my friends and I were around. All I could do was laugh at their dumba$$e$. They really actually thought this bothered us. D finally got married and has come back from her honeymoon. Now all she can talk about is who is coming to her son's birthday party this week. I just can't stand girls who try to act like the world revolves around them. She is that girl who gets mad if you're friends with someone she doesn't like. She tries to brainwash the rest of our coworkers who are new and tell them not to talk to us. I mean what grade are we in?!? How childish and immature she is and all I can do is laugh. She is trying so hard to make us look bad, but she is actually the one looking like a retard.

Harry Potter

So I have decided to go ahead and read the Harry Potter books. EVERYONE I know seems to read them and they tell me how they're "sooooo good." I've seen the three movies that came out (and I am excited for the next one in November) and I loved them! I thought they were "soooooo good." I'm only on the second chapter of the first book, and I already don't want to put it down. It's already caught my attention from the beginning. I'm excited to get to the point where everyone else seems to be...

On a side note, I also want to point out how freakin HOT it is here. I tried to lay out by the pool and read my HP book and had to come back inside within 10 minutes. It's not even noon yet and it's already 90 degrees!!!! I can't stand this anymore! You can't even get the mail without sweating off 15lb!

Monday, July 25, 2005

Laguna Beach

Tonight was the premiere of Laguna Beach on MTV. Now I don't know about you but when I watch that show, I remind myself that I am sooo glad not to be in high school anymore. These chicks cause sooo much drama it's ridiculous! I remember when I was in high school and would have the petty arguments with chicks and having that "In Crowd". These girls step it up a notch because they live in a beautiful town right on the beach and their parents are filthy rich, so all they do is spend their parents' money and stab each other in the back. Why I watch this show, I don't really know.....I'm addicted...I'll admit it.

I am so tired of Lauren chasing after Stephen like a puppy dog. I mean she is a pretty girl and I am sure she can get with any guy if she wanted. She looks sooo desperate just lusting after a guy who ONLY pays attention to her when the girl HE likes isn't so into the moment. Lauren just needs to move on and find another guy.

Now Kristen is your typical high school girl. She laughs and giggles at just about anything, has a serious attitude, gossips about EVERYONE, and makes out with guys in public. (See Sara's posting on 19 year old girls here) Granted, it is fun to watch her be such a bitch to some of the people on the show, but I would probably have to hurt her if I had went to high school with her. She plays LOTS of games with guys, especially Stephen.

Then there is Kristen's friend Jessica, who is soooo blinded by the crush on her boyfriend, that she can't see he is obviously not being too faithful to her. He hangs out with another girl, who seems to be digging him a lot, and Jessica lets him run all over her. Sad sad story.....

I guess all of the situations they are in now are the same ones every high schooler has. I'm just glad I am a mature woman in a serious relationship that is nowhere near the situations these kids have. If I found out Boyfriend was not faithful to me, he'd be at the curb in a second.

Gay or Not Gay? That is the Question...

So this weekend I was at the University of Georgia for a conference hosted by While I was there, I meet some awesome people and had the chance to network with recruiters for corporate Target, Nortel, Shell, Cardinal Health, etc. (just to name a few). Now it's time to get down to the topic of this discussion...

I met a guy named Jay and he was really cool to talk to. My roommate down there and a bunch of other DLP-ers (that was the name of the conference) went to the bars in downtown Athens. While we were at this particular bar, a couple of us were having a discussion about relationships with significant others. One of the girls, Shyla, commented on the fact that her and her boyfriend have an open relationship (I guess she was trying to justify the reason why she was groping one of the guys we were with.) I don't know HOW this subject of being gay came up (I actually think Jay brought it up), but we then started to talk about how you can tell if a guy is gay. This is Jay's opinion on how you know a guy is gay:
  • if a guy dressed very nice (as in had great style)
  • if a guy watched Sex & the City
  • if a guy drank girly alcoholic drinks

I know there were more but I was pretty buzzing so I can't remember them all. Now the WHOLE time he was telling us this, he would add "I like to dress nice and be stylish BUT I'm not gay", "I watch Sex & the City and Will & Grace BUT I am not gay", and last but not least "I drink fruity drinks BUT I'm not gay"

Now to me that is just his way of letting us know he is definitely gay. It was so annoying I just wanted to come out and ask him if maybe he was gay. I mean who cares if he is gay? None of us cared if he was or not ( I actually like gay men...they're fun.) Now the reaons he used to tell if a guy is gay are totally not good reasons. I like for my guy to dress nice and have style. If not, why even go anywhere with them?? You don't want your guy looking bad! Second, Boyfriend has watched Sex & the City before (of course, it was with me) but that doesn't mean a guy is automatically gay. Last but not least, a guy drinking girly drinks is a little weird....but hey, to each its own. Who cares if he drinks fruity drinks but that doesn't mean he is gay.

I don't know maybe I am wrong about this but it just makes sense to me.

Thursday, July 21, 2005

Heading Out

I know I promised funny stories and pictures from the birthday bash, BUT I am heading out to the University of Georgia for the weekend so it has to wait....(I know... you're disappointed...I am too) But I will be back with stories to tell ( I promise!)

This weekend I will be partaking in various activities hosted by This is going to help (hopefully) further my job search (once graduated in May) and give me that little "boost"! So I hope everyone out there in the blogosphere (i am not sure if that's the word...I'm new to this blogging thing) has a WONDERFUL weekend! Til later...

The Morning After

So I got this photo from the wonderful Sara, and it is right on the money in describing what I feel like today. My stomach feels like it's on a roller coaster, I have cotton mouth from hell, and I think my head is actually about to split down the middle! I do have some funny stories to tell and pictures to post, but I think you'll have to wait....Just typing right now and looking at this screen is giving me a headache on top of the one I had.

Just a quick summary on last night's birthday bash....IT WAS AWESOME!! I appreciate everyone who came and laughed at my drunk a$$. You would've thought I was turning 21 last night! I had a great time, so THANKS!


Now it's time to pop some Tylenol, eat some bread, drink some water, and back into bed....

Wednesday, July 20, 2005

Happy Birthday to Me!

Today is MY BIRTHDAY!!! Tonight I will going out with Boyfriend and tons of friends to celebrate the holiday! I am sure tomorrow I will have funny and interesting stories to tell about the event! So stay tuned...

Tuesday, July 19, 2005

I was reading City Sparkle and I had to just point out what she said. Why do women have to inquire what is going on with their not-man and be jealous aout it? I guess we just like to know what is going on with everyone we know, that it doesn't matter if we get hurt with the truth. In my case, it is with my man.

A few months ago, my boyfriend told me that when we first started to get serious (we've been dating for almost 2 years), he met a girl at the restaurant he worked at that time. I will call her PhoneGirl (because Boyfriend talked to her on the phone.) Boyfriend told me that PhoneGirl went to the bar and told the bartender to give Boyfriend her number. (Now at this point, the bartender should have just thrown the number out because she knew Boyfriend was with me. It's just out of respect.) However, the bartender gives Boyfriend the number. (This pisses me off.) So Boyfriend calls PhoneGirl and they talk about who knows what. I asked Boyfriend if he told PhoneGirl he had a girlfriend. Boyfriend said he didn't because they never talked on the phone that long. I told Boyfriend that first of all he shouldn't have even called PhoneGirl, second telling her that he had a girlfriend should have been the first thing he told her. Am I wrong?

To sum it up, Boyfriend only talked to PhoneGirl that one time (so he says) and he said nothing else came of it. I may sound like the dumb girlfriend when I say this...but I believe him. Boyfriend has never said or done anything to make me question anything he tells me or does. He was open enough to even let me know of the wrong-doing and he didn't have to. I trust him when he says all that happened was the one phone call. But I wanted to know every single little thing they talked about on the phone...even if I was going to get hurt. It just hurt knowing that Boyfriend even talked to this girl on the phone! But I wanted to find out the truth.

Monday, July 18, 2005

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I knew I was meant to live there! I can't wait til the day!

Celebrity News....

So I was reading USA TODAY and I came across an article that Jude Law publicly apologized for cheating on his baby mama/fiancee with the nanny. Seriously, what is up with men? Why do feel the need to cheat on their significant other? It's not cute at all! I mean his fiancee is beautiful, why go for the nanny?

I am sooo tired of hearing about Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise. They have only been dating a few months and they already want to have a baby! I've been dating my boyfriend almost 2 years and I can't imagine having children with him (or anyone for that matter) anytime soon!

Also heard that now Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are going to get hitched! I am not a big fan for those two (I am still praying Pitt and Aniston will get back together). Don't get me wrong, Angelina is a hot chick but she just seems too trashy for Brad.

I don't know what these celebs are thinking...

Acrylic Toes?

I went to get my nails done today and while I was sitting in the chair, a girl walks in and says she needs a full set. Whatever, that's normal. She sits 2 chairs down from me, and as she sits down I hear her whisper to the Asian woman " I need a full set on my toes." I tried not to be so obvious, but as soon I heard her say that, I had this shocked look on my face. When did girls start getting acrylic nails on their toes??

I mean is it just me or is that not just plain weird? Maybe this chick had no toenails (I couldn't see...but I tried to check). But if she didn't have toenails, what would they stick the fake nail to?? Maybe I am behind on the new trend to get your toenails long. Whatever happened to just a nice ol' REGULAR pedicure???

Be careful who you let borrow...

So I have this friend who I will call T.B. and a few months ago I let her borrow my Sex & the City DVDs. (Just so you know, I have all the seasons...I LOVE the show!Well the DVDs come in this colored plastic cover with the season's pictures on it.

I didn't mind so much that T.B. had the DVDs for what seemed like forever (actually like 3 or 4 months), but I wanted to watch some of the episodes. I called her and asked her to bring them to my job. She agreed and the first thing that put me off was that she called Outback, asked me to come outside and get them from her. I mean it was raining like crazy outside,(and she did not want to get wet....I thought I was the one at work and needed to stay dry...) but whatever, I went and got them.

I ran back inside and I soon I was about to put them in my purse, I realized that Season 2's case was in 3 pieces!! I AM LIVID at this point. Not only am I drenched from the rain, but this chick broke my most fabulous DVD case!! I called her from my work line and asked her what happened to the DVD case. So T.B. says "I don't know what you're talking about. I didn't notice it being broken when I just handed it to you." She said she'd noticed the case was pretty much falling apart when I let her borrow them.

(For the record, I am very picky about my belongings and when I let her borrow them, they were pretty much new. I had only owned all of them for maybe a month. I've known her for a long time so I wasn't worried about letting her take them. Boy, was I wrong!) I told her it was impossible that it was falling about when she got it because they were new. Then T.B. got all attitude-ish with me and by this point I am ready to jump through the phone.

I always thought that when you borrow something from a person, you give it back in the same condition it was given to you. I mean, is that so much to ask!??! I know to NEVER let T.B. borrow anything again...

The Perfect Manhattan

So I just got done reading a book called The Perfect Manhattan. Now I am IN LOVE with NYC and I want to live there within the next 2-3 years. I loved this book! It's about this girl named Cassie who just graduated college and ends up being a bartender. She lands a summer gig in the infamous Hamptons and experiences all kinds of crazy things. The authors of this book actually bartend in Manhattan and the Hamptons, so it was sort of a novel of the experiences they've had. I definitely recommend this book!

Infamous Shift at Outback

Outback is said to be one of the best restaurants to work at in Fayetteville, NC. (Or so you'd think...) Last night was maybe one of the worst shifts I have ever worked. First of all, waiting tables is not going to be my obvious career (even though it is for HALF of the staff I work with). So it really pisses me off when I get a table who thinks they can treat me like I am just some dumb waitress. Little do they know that I am going on my last year of college, graduating with honors in public relations, and ONLY working there til the day I get that dipolma in my hands. Second, I can't stand half the people I work with. Some of these people LOVE to bring drama into the restaurant and of course, drag you into it also. I mean some of these people take their job just a little too seriously! I just go in to make my money & BOUNCE!

So back to last night (I seem to be getting into a whole other story!) My very first table was a party of six and I assumed 'Hey, the shift seems to be starting off okay. I can work this table and get a good tip off the bat.' Little did I know that as soon I as introduced myself, this table was already getting on my nerves! The women were so bossy and rude. They also ran me ragged! Their bill was $97.70 (and because they were not a party of 8 or more, I could not add a grat...I prayed 2 more people would show up!) I guessed maybe I would get $5.00 off of them, but in reality I got...NOTHING!! Can you believe that?!!? I mean I make $2.13 a hour and I have to pay tipshare to the bussers, bartenders, and hostesses. I was livid!

This table started a horrible streak for the night. I had all kinds of crappy tables, men old enough to be my grandfather who harass you, other bossy women, and messy impatient children. I even had some guests telling me how to do my job! I mean seriously, if I didn't know what I was doing I am sure Outback would have fired me by now. These guests think I have 8 arms or something and can do everything at once! They didn't give me the second it takes to go get that pitcher of sweet tea to refill their glass. I was so relieved when I was finally cut. My bones ached and all I wanted was a drink!

I can't wait to graduate and get that "real world" job. I don't think I can deal much longer!