Carolina Girl

Words of a Twenty-Something

Tuesday, July 19, 2005

I was reading City Sparkle and I had to just point out what she said. Why do women have to inquire what is going on with their not-man and be jealous aout it? I guess we just like to know what is going on with everyone we know, that it doesn't matter if we get hurt with the truth. In my case, it is with my man.

A few months ago, my boyfriend told me that when we first started to get serious (we've been dating for almost 2 years), he met a girl at the restaurant he worked at that time. I will call her PhoneGirl (because Boyfriend talked to her on the phone.) Boyfriend told me that PhoneGirl went to the bar and told the bartender to give Boyfriend her number. (Now at this point, the bartender should have just thrown the number out because she knew Boyfriend was with me. It's just out of respect.) However, the bartender gives Boyfriend the number. (This pisses me off.) So Boyfriend calls PhoneGirl and they talk about who knows what. I asked Boyfriend if he told PhoneGirl he had a girlfriend. Boyfriend said he didn't because they never talked on the phone that long. I told Boyfriend that first of all he shouldn't have even called PhoneGirl, second telling her that he had a girlfriend should have been the first thing he told her. Am I wrong?

To sum it up, Boyfriend only talked to PhoneGirl that one time (so he says) and he said nothing else came of it. I may sound like the dumb girlfriend when I say this...but I believe him. Boyfriend has never said or done anything to make me question anything he tells me or does. He was open enough to even let me know of the wrong-doing and he didn't have to. I trust him when he says all that happened was the one phone call. But I wanted to know every single little thing they talked about on the phone...even if I was going to get hurt. It just hurt knowing that Boyfriend even talked to this girl on the phone! But I wanted to find out the truth.


7 Comments:

  • At 1:04 PM, Blogger Sara said…

    You are not wrong! He should not have called the other girl. If I left a number for a guy to call and he called me, I would assume he's single & interested.

    Were you already exclusive at that point?

     
  • At 2:02 PM, Blogger Tasha said…

    Sort of exclusive...it was still in its early stages...but if he did it now, I'D KILL'EM!

     
  • At 2:14 PM, Blogger Sara said…

    of course you would :) and rightly so... but i'm sure he wouldn't!

     
  • At 4:38 PM, Blogger Crazy Girl City said…

    Yeah, I'd be pissed off too. My boyfriend (aka TheBoy) has a shitload of female friends. I have always been ok with that. Whenever he starts a new friendship or talks to one of his pals from the past, I'm always asking if he told the-her-of-the-moment that he had a girlfriend. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes its no. For the no's he says it doesn't come up and he is not going to start every conversation with a "hi my name is TheBoy and I have a girlfriend."

    Damn it. Sometimes I wish I could brand him. Haha. Ok not really, but you get what I mean.

     
  • At 11:15 PM, Blogger Tasha said…

    I know exactly what you mean Crazy Girl! Sometimes I think yeah he should start a convo w/ "hey my name is Boyfriend...I have a girlfriend"....

    Branding doesn't sound like a bad idea....

    Hahaha just kidding

     
  • At 8:14 PM, Blogger Asian Mistress said…

    Ohhh this is such a tricky subject as I said. Hmm...it's too old now to be mad at, but yeah...I would want to know about it too. At those early stages things were up in the air - so it's important to look at. However, in the end he did pick you - so hooray!

    And thanks for the link! :)

     
  • At 10:39 AM, Blogger Tasha said…

    I agree Asian Mistress! Also, no prob about the link! I love your blog!

     

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